My Girls, I miss you both!

I wanted to take a moment to share something personal that weighed heavily on my heart last week. My family experienced an unexpected loss, one that left us stunned, heartbroken, and quietly reflecting on how fragile life can be.
This was a tough loss for my husband’s family. His uncle, who passed, wasn’t just a relative; he was a fixture in his childhood. Since the age of six, my husband shared countless memories with him, from Saints games to everyday family moments that built a deep bond over the years. In families as large and intertwined as his, each loss hits differently, and this one hit hard.
While my daughters understand the concept of death, we chose not to share this particular loss with them. Sometimes, as parents, we weigh what to explain and what to protect them from. That doesn’t mean the loss isn’t deeply felt; it just means we're doing our best to balance honesty and emotional safety.

Over the past few years, grief has surrounded us all in different ways. We’ve lost loved ones, witnessed friends grieve their families, and even mourned the passing of public figures who somehow felt like our own, people like Malcolm Jamal Warner, whose presence touched generations.
And through it all, I find myself asking, How do we deal with loss? Do we ever truly deal with it?
From my journey, I can tell you this: I just recently stopped being angry about a loss that happened ten years ago. That’s a full decade of wrestling with emotions that didn’t always make sense. So if you’re angry, that’s okay. If you’re confused or numb or questioning everything, that’s okay too.
The stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance aren’t a checklist. They aren’t steps we climb and then magically feel better. You might wake up one day in acceptance, and the next day fall right back into denial or rage. That doesn’t mean you’re failing, it just means you’re human.
No one’s grief looks the same. No one walks the same path.
So if you’re grieving something, recent or distant, someone close or someone who simply meant something to you, give yourself grace. Talk about it when you can. Sit with it when you can’t.
And know that you’re not alone.
With love and understanding,









